Secrets To Controlling Your Anger

By Broyde McDonald

Anger is simply one of a number of emotions that contribute to the true character and personal power of a person. The way that you handle and control your anger helps determine the way the world responds to you.

While anger is uncontrolled, it is terrifying and dangerous and can lead to more anger. Controlled anger is another form of anger and it is helpful for solving problems. The facts are that if it were not for anger, many times there would be things wrong and we would not know that they needed fixing.

The way you can tell if your anger is controlled is by watching the way you act and feel when you become angry. If you are able to carefully choose the words you say when angry, you can consider that things are controlled.

On the other hand, if you find that when angry you only understand what you had said after you had already said it, then you need to work on this area before you get yourself into trouble.

You can control your anger in many ways. If you are going to do it, you need to know that there are quite a bit of tools available to help you. All you will need to do is sort them and use the ones that are best for your needs.

To control your anger, two of the first things you must do are know when you are getting angry. Secondly you need to use your will power as soon as you start to get angry to do something that calms your anger down, instead of letting it grow up into a rage.

Excuse me, hold on a minute, one second, be right back, you can use one of these, or a similar phrase to rescue yourself from a potentially hostile situation. You only need to say it, walk away, and stay away until your anger has cooled off.

You use walking away as you would training wheels on a bicycle. You will not have to walk away forever. It would only be until you are managing your anger better. Once things are better, you will be able to jump over the walking away part and substitute another skill for it.

Until then however, walking away and slowly counting to ten, twenty, or one hundred as the need may be, until you are calm will help you to keep the nasty effects from anger away.

Doing this has helped many people in the past. Please do not underestimate the power of this simple act to help. Use it, it will help you to.

When you start to think about long term solutions, let your starting place be taking the time everyday to relax yourself. Coming out of your anger problems will be more rapid if you take the time to treat yourself to time alone thinking about the things that satisfy you. Whether you believe it or not, this will take a lot of the bite out of your anger.

Get a little help with managing your anger.

If you make up your mind to control your anger more speedily, I recommend that you do an anger management class. With eight weeks of training you will be managing your anger 20% better. - 31891

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